It’s not easy to step into a serious relationship. It isn’t just about who you’d like to experience life with, it’s about building something great and memorable. But before making a serious commitment, you need to truly stop and think if you are ready to go down that road. My tip for you, is here’s how to know you know you’re in the right place emotionally and mentally to take that next step.
- You Understand Yourself Well
Self awareness is a foundation for a healthy relationship. Before you bring someone else into your life, being comfortable in your own skin, knowing what you want, need and why are some of the most important things to set forth. If you know who you are, what you want from life and what your values are, you will probably pick a partner that shares your beliefs and aspirations.
- You’re Emotionally Available
The emotional availability described then is being able to connect with others deeply and vulnerably. So if you’ve been through past heartbreaks or tough times, heal before you can be truly open with someone else. If you are ready for a serious relationship, you’ve resolved any emotional baggage you’re bringing into your new dynamic. It’s letting your full self out for someone else, without withholding or playing games with emotions.
- You’re Ready to Compromise
Compromise is how serious relationships are built. Relationships aren’t easy, no one is perfect and there are always challenges. Ready to be in a serious relationship means you’re willing to meet your partner halfway, to negotiate differences, and even sacrifice a little bit of selfishness in the name of the relationship. Holding on to your position rigidly when conflicts arise isn’t a good idea; it’s more important to be open minded and flexible.
- You Want a Partnership, Not a Dependency.
Being prepared for a real relationship means recognizing that it shouldn’t be a matter of dependency, but a relationship. You’re not out to “complete” someone or fill a void with someone. You want someone who can make your life better and contribute value, but don’t have them as your source of happiness and self worth. Mutual respect, love and independence is the base of healthy relationships.
- You’ll make the Effort
Relationships take work. It’s not always about the fun dates or shared adventures, there will be tough times too. If you’re in a relationship that is ready for commitment you’re ready to invest in your efforts to make and sustain it. You know relationships are not easy, that means they involve talking, being patient, trusting, being willing to sometimes sacrifice. You’re ready to devote time, energy and emotional resources.
- You Have The Power To Get Things Done Together.
You will face obstacles in every relationship. Of course, there will be challenges, whether it’s different opinions, stress brought on by external harsh factors or difficult personal situations! If you want to be in a serious relationship this doesn’t mean taking the vows but means that you’re ready for these challenges head on and not in the field of tearing you apart. If you can both speak up and get past tough times together, it’s a sign that you’re prepared for something more.
- You Know How to Have Healthy Communication
Being successful in any relationship, communication is key. It is not emotional maturity until you can express your thoughts, feelings and concerns in a respectful, constructive way and equally listen to your partner. One of the truest aspects of serious relationships is that you’re able to talk about important things, share your dreams, or call out issues without fear of being judged or of fighting.
- You’re Ready to Share Your Life with Someone.
Inviting someone else into your world is a serious relationship. Are you okay with giving someone your space, time, and future? In order to be ready for a committed relationship you have to put someone else’s needs and dreams ahead of your own. And if you are doing all that thinking about your future and whether you see someone by your side, that is definitely a sign that you are ready to make the commitment.
9. You’re Comfortable with Vulnerability
Creating intimacy with another person means going through a state of vulnerability, but it can also be scary. If you’re ready for the serious stuff, you’re ready to be who you really are, fear free. You want to be open, tell your partner all your flaws, and trust it with your emotions. Building vulnerability builds trust and helps you feel better connected to someone over time.
- You Have Realistic Expectations
Finally, ready for a serious relationship means being realistic. Relationships aren’t about perfection, and no one is going to be able to meet all your needs all the time. You do understand that there will be ups (and down) and that you and your partner will grow and change. Mutual support, shared goals and adaptability are not perfection but what serious relationships are about.
Conclusion
It’s a mix of being self aware, emotional mature and supportive of someone else’s life. Rushing into a relationship isn’t what is about; it’s about understanding what it takes to put together a solid and healthy bond. But if you’re already emotionally available, willing to compromise, and willing to do the work, the real thing is now within your grasp. When you feel ready, build a relationship which is meaningful, take your time, reflect on what you want and when the time feels right take the goddamn journey.
